This gorgeous family of five has recently orbited in to my family’s life and I feel honoured to be entrusted with their story as we get to know one another. Thank you for sharing with us Mama ❤ ❤
Hello! Thanks for participating. Please tell us a little bit about yourself and your family, however you’d like to introduce yourselves.
Hello! My family consists of 3 out of 5 neurodivergent members, though we suspect DD is too (and DS2 is too young to really tell), we haven’t received a diagnosis for her at this stage. My husband has ASD, our paediatrician agreed that I had undiagnosed ASD & OCD, and ADHD, though I do not have a diagnosis for myself. I would like to explore my own diagnosis with a professional at some point in the near future however at the moment it’s kind of at the bottom of the priority list, just cause kids come first, you know. Just being aware of these conditions has helped me understand myself so much more. Our (almost) 6 year old was diagnosed with ASD at 5 years of age, though we suspected it since he was a toddler. DD has high anxiety and we are unsure of how this will progress.
What do you value and love about your family?
I love that at the end of the day, no matter how hard it is sometimes, we all love each other and have the same goals in mind. We learn more about each other every day.
What does acceptance of neurodivergence look like in your home and extended family?
I love that though we all have different needs, we understand each other. I identify with DS1’s selective eating because I suffer the same issues, and my husband identifies with his social discomfort because he experiences the same. Being neurodivergent is normal in our family, so we “get” each other. Unfortunately our extended family is not so accepting/understanding. We have not disclosed our diagnosis to everyone. My husband’s family would not understand – they would either insist on medicating our children (not that we have anything against medication when necessary, but for our children at this stage, it is not) or insist that it was an unnecessary diagnosis because we are “normal” with “normal” children. Thankfully other extended family members are much more supportive and understanding.
How can others in the community support and include you and your family?
That’s a good question and one I haven’t got the answer to. I really don’t know what we need or want more of at the moment, I just know that it’s hard for us to fit at the moment.
How are families like ours contributing to the neurodiversity movement, disability Pride, culture, and community?
I find it hard to answer this – I feel like a hypocrite because I haven’t put the effort in to get my own diagnosis confirmed, nor have we disclosed our diagnoses to selected family members – so I feel like a bit of a fraud when it comes to the above. I so appreciate and value those families who are open about their neurodiversity, because I wish I had the ability to do so without fearing judgment from horrible family members who we cannot avoid 😦
* You can find all of the couples and families featured so far here – Neurodiverse Families
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