This morning, I spied this most beautiful artwork by Herakut, There is something better than perfection.

The 15m mural was painted in Frankfurt, Germany “in an area that is dominated by clean-cut bank towers with their immaculate window facades” (here’s background information on the mural and the project)

I’ve been staring at the artwork this morning. It’s connected with me. It is a beautiful depiction of what it means to be a neurodivergent family and live that truth as a family together.

We are rounding the corner to Autism Acceptance month. My message for autistic families: You are enough. Acceptance starts with taking your own mask off and showing your children self love and self acceptance. Even when you are afraid, exhausted, and vulnerable.


This is what I wish for my life right now, and for other parents of disabled children…

I wish that we can come to know ourselves, especially those of us who are also disabled.
That we aren’t afraid to take our masks off and show our children who we are. Despite how vulnerable we feel.

That we face our shortcomings and our struggles, and despite the temptation to put that mask on and tell our children we are fine and the world is fine,
we keep honestly sharing who we are and how we struggle.

That we can show our children that there is
something better than perfection.

I wish that we can truly see our children, raw and unfiltered,
offer them unconditional love,
without needing them to put a mask on every day to fit in to some neurotypical, able-bodied idea of perfection,
for our comfort, or for others comfort.

That we aren’t afraid to voice their neurodivergence out loud.
Our children will know they are loved because, not in spite of, their neurology.

That we can connect with our children even when it is messy and hard;
hold each other,
forgive each other,
and grow together.

That we can show our children that there is
something better than perfection.

Thank you and credit to Rachel of racheous.com for sharing this artwork on instagram so that I could see it and write about it.

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