It has been a really big week of reflection here. It was our eldest child's birthday. He had a party with lots of his unschool friends, and spent most of the week gaming. Birthdays always get me reflecting with gratitude and sometimes a bit of parental guilt and remorse. Being the eldest, and the first … Continue reading Birthday reflections
I've been experiencing some discomfort lately as I unpack and try to put back together my thoughts and feelings about screen time and social media. I have always been extremely supportive of neurodivergent people's needs and rights to access tech for communication, friendships, and fun. I defend against screen shaming adults whining about young people's use of screens. And yet...
I've been staring at the artwork this morning. It has connected with me. It is the perfect image of what it means to be a neurodivergent family and live that truth as a family together.
I want to create a wellspring of stories to nourish other neurodiverse families, and show the world we exist, we have Pride, and we love and support one another in our own ways.
I've been focussing heavily on follow-up from meetings with the UN in Geneva for Autistic Family Collective. In the meantime, I have found pockets of writing space for some posts I am proud of over at Respectfully Connected.
Returning from my travel to the UN in Geneva for Autistic Family Collective, I was wide awake and jetlagged, and wrote a list of some of the things I just won't accept this Autism Acceptance Month (or ever!). Things like sympathy, denial, stigma, hate and fear...
I have been appreciating lately the quiet in our lives. We are not quiet. Not even a little bit quiet. We're neurodivergent in various overlapping ways, and for us that means constant running, singing, jumping, stimming, chatting, climbing, moving and creating. But although my family are the opposite of quiet, we have made deliberate choices … Continue reading When life is quiet
Value yourself. Get more sleep and make it a priority. Cuddle your babies when you sleep too. One day they won’t be there to cuddle. Do these things when you can; even if it’s just some of the time. If you forget, forgive yourself (just as you forgive your children). Fear, guilt and perfection don’t go well with an adventurous, juicy life.
Once, my family life looked like this: two working parents, one child in kindergarten, playgroup, soccer, music, and playdates with friends in-between. We were stressed, we were exhausted, we were constantly melting down, and we were taking medication to cope. We are all neurodivergent. Identifying and understanding our neurodivergence has created space for some significant changes in our family...
New on Respectfully Connected: It is just over a year since we withdrew our eldest child from formal education after the stress became unbearable for him. I was tentative about our decision. As a successful ‘product’ of formal education, and a pretty mainstream gal, I had never considered homeschooling, let alone the child-lead unschooling adventure we have embarked on. But we did it because we had to, and over the past year I have discovered real joys and benefits of home educating my three neurodivergent children.