I learned I was autistic in my 30s. Not long afterwards, I came across the word chameleon to describe how many autistic people change our communication, voice, interests, and actions to mirror the people we are with, or to fit in with the norms of a group. Looking back on the way I had survived … Continue reading Don’t shame us for being chameleon
I became a mother not knowing I was autistic. Surprisingly, it was the first time I was truly aware of how different I am to neurotypical women. In my 20s, I moved cities and left behind high-school friendships. I made choices to work and build friendships in social justice communities. By day I could work with … Continue reading autistic women, motherhood and friendship
Hello wonderful community! My friend, Ayman Eckford from St Petersburg in Russia, got in touch recently and asked for help reaching out to our neuroqueer community to answer some questions for LGBTQIA+ autistic young people and their families. Can you help? Ayman has a few questions for you that will be shared here and also translated in to Russian … Continue reading Queer and Autistic? Help us answer some Qs from Russian families
Pleasant phrases work with strangers who only want pleasant things. "Can I have a skinny cappuccino please? Thank you and have a nice day" Pleasant phrases let me down too. When I need to speak, "No, Stop!" but those pleasant phrases come instead, "Thank you, and have a nice day."
I hope The Real Experts finds its way to the hands and hearts of many parents, professionals, and others who care for autistic children. I hope they find it early. I know it will have a profound impact on their parenting and understanding of autistic children.
I have realised something important about my needs. My mind needs FLOW to survive. Flow is the state we reach when we are completely immersed in something, sometimes called being 'in the zone'.
This deeply personal post took a long time to find the courage to write. It's over at Respectfully Connected but I want to share it here because it explains a little about my identity and experiences. A second coming out & getting proud by practising “Briannon is a proudly queer, autistic woman with three autistic children" Sometimes I … Continue reading Intersected: Coming Out Queer + Autistic
Autistic Family Collective recently ran a social media campaign to present more positive views of parenting autistic children #MoreThanOneAutism Story I see you… I invite you to see me I see you, Sitting in the car outside the paediatrician’s office. In shock. Your child has been diagnosed with autism, by a health professional using a list … Continue reading More than one autism story
Sharing this post from Respectfully Connected: This UN World Autism Awareness Day (Autism Acceptance Day in our family) an inexcusable abuse of the human rights of an Autistic child broke in the news in Australia. It has been reported that a primary school purpose built a cage made of pool fencing for an Autistic boy. … Continue reading Why we homeschool our autistic son
Before parenthood, I always somehow found a small place of belonging within the community I was living in. But now, as a mother raising my children in Your suburban community, there is no place for us. So I have created my own place. I call it Querencia.